Thoughts on Marriage

Perhaps its just me,(seeing as thats where I am always speaking from...self) but marriage seems flawed.

It could be the media, and their subliminal messages they put in movies and have been putting in movies of men and women being so platonic, or being with someone and when you are not feeling it anymore or because of your own reasons dating someone else. But the picture of marriage seems flawed.

I have friends married, and i feel when its right many people know its right no matter what age. Few marriages are meant to be, but a lot of the times feelings overshadow the truth of another person. From what i've seen/know personally more feeling than thought goes into marriage, people date for a few months(while the butterflies are still fresh) and next thing you know they schedule a marriage. Later on when reality sets in the people find themselves no longer feeling the same way about each other and they then divorce.

Who's to say that we all have one person with whom we need,or want to be with for the rest of our lives. From what i've heard and seen many marriages are merely an image, the couple (no matter the sex) puts the image up that they love each other for the benefit of the children, or because of their parents, or because of what they were formally known as to peers. If its not working move on.

I feel in the future there will be more Fathers who are not with the woman they made the child with;and vice versa; and same with the same sex. If you do a little looking/research you will see that open relationships are on the rise(or at least more public);more specifically polyamory(having more than one intimate partner at a time). I think it makes sense;since for so long the message of marriage has been pushed, and pushed, and pushed at people.Past generations are breaking out the norm as well as this upcoming generation,my generation. WE are learning from mistakes so whether its an open marriage, or choosing to be wiser about who we marry, the norm is changing from exclusive to open.

And with sex being held as such a holy sacrament to the religious it only clouds marriage more at times. many want sex moreso than marriage but will put up with the process for the sex, and a year or two down the road;they seperate because they had what they wanted. Another scenario could be they begin cheating. they experience sex for the first time and then their minds open about all the people they could have had sex with,or possibly still can have sex with(co-workers,ex's,men,women,friends,etc) and they explore that while being in marriage.

If you know its not for you don't do it at the expense of others, or society's view on it! Thats society and you are you! BE honest in relationships no matter how hard it is, if you can't do that don't hurt the other person by saying left while you've been leading them on tot eh right.

Polyamoral will also run its course and marriage as it was known in the 20s,30s,50,60s will return but at least for the next few decades don't be surprised at open marriages being more public, or polyamoral relationships/marriages.

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